Adoption Myths and Facts

So as we wait…we thought we would share some adoption myths and facts.

1.     Myth: Adoption is second-best.

Fact: Adoption may be another way, but it is never second-best.

 

2.     Myth: Birthparents can show up at any time to “reclaim” their child.

Fact: Once an adoption is finalized, it is permanent, and the adoptive parents are legally recognized as the child’s parents.

 

3.     Myth: Birthparents are irresponsible and don’t care about their child.

Fact: Birthparents want the best for their child. They make an adoption plan because they knew they are not able to take care of the child.

 

4.     Myth: Adoptive parents don’t love their child as much as parents in families formed through biology.

Fact: The love is the same, regardless of the family is formed.

 

5.     Myth:  Infants available for adoption in the U.S. are all drug-exposed.

Fact:  Most women considering adoption for their children are not using drugs.  Some may, but the majority of them are leading relatively healthy lives and even seeking ongoing prenatal care.  They are choosing adoption because they care about their child.

 

6.     Myth:  Birth mothers are typically teens.

Fact:  Birthmothers are actually usually in their twenties, already parenting other children.  They are typically single and struggling.  They are choosing adoption thoughtfully and because they want a better life for their child.  They often will want to play an active role in their adoption plan.

 

7.     Myth: The birth mother will regret her decision for the rest of her life.  Some believe that adoption is so painful that most women regret the choice all their lives, or that a birth mother who chooses adoption will have serious emotional problems, or that adoption is a more traumatic experience for a woman than abortion.

Fact: For the birth parent facing an unplanned pregnancy, making an adoption plan can be a very positive resolution.  With support and counseling, most birth mothers who choose adoption based on the best interests of their children and themselves are able to grieve and proceed with the healing process in a positive manner.  When the adoption experience is handled properly, most birth mothers feel good about their decision years later.

 

8.     Myth: Children who are adopted are more likely to be troubled.

Fact: There is no difference in psychological functioning between adopted and non-adopted children.