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Have to vs. Get to

At the beginning of every year, we get important pieces of paper in the mail stating how much money we made and paid in taxes. We have to file our taxes and pay if we owe.  Some things we have to do and some things we get to do.

It's more than words, but an attitude.  When we 'have to' do something, it is usually an obligation and not something we want to do. On the other hand, when we 'get to' do something, we look forward to it and it is exciting - like 'getting to' go on vacation. We have to go to work, but we get to go on vacation.  It is about attitude.

With adoption, people may say, 'We can't have a baby, so we have to adopt.'  To me, we get to adopt.  If every child is a gift, then so is our adopted child.  If we have to adopt, then it can come across as second-best.

I am excited about adopting because it is how God is giving us a family.  So even though we may not have the pregnancy experience, we are as excited about adoption as an expecting couple and I hope that everybody will feel the same way.  Thank you to everybody who has shared in this excitement with us.

-Josh

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  1. AnonymousSeptember 8, 2011 at 7:48 PM

    i am so excited for u both, lots of love! tiff

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  2. AnonymousSeptember 18, 2011 at 5:34 PM

    Tim's oldest brother is adopted and my youngest brother is adopted. So, we know that God has a wonderful way of creating families. We are excited for you and will continue to follow God's work.
    - Brigitte

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